Mar
25
2008

Arse! (and a fat one at that!!!)

I recently subscribed to a Christian dating site and received an email from a bloke whose profile read… ”Emotional & spiritual connection are priority. But SORRY, but if youre more than 50 pounds overweight plse tell me now. 25 pounds is NOT a problem. 3w.caloriecounting.co.uk .Im NOT seeking perfection,Im 15 pounds overweight myself:-)”

Er…. let me think. Would I like to meet up with a bloke who is already obsessing about my weight? No thanks! I cannot quite understand why people write this sort of stuf fon a profile, in some ways I almost respect it as at least he knows what he wants, but then again I also think that it is then insulting to then email someone and say hello I would like to meet you, when I clearly don’t fit into his criteria.

I am fully aware that I am not a size zero (thank goodness), and whilst I would like to lose weight I would also like to meet someone who loves me, fat arse and all. I am quite able of obsessing about my weight all on my own without having a bloke to do it for me and I have to be really careful that my thought processes don’t become unhealthy. It is likely that I will struggle with my weight for my whole life, but I am trying to make changes to my physical health and I am slowly getting there. What I do not need, is that sort of emotional pressure.

I don’t think I will be extending my subscription somehow!!

EDIT…

Ps) Here is my email back to him…

“Well as I weigh significantly over your paramenters and expectations I can safely say that I would not be what you are looking for. It’s not about being self-critial but to I have to say that I find listing weight-expecations on your profile slightly disconcerting. Whilst I am in no way happy with my weight I refuse to let my life be run by what the scales say. I would rather be overweight and fit and healthy than obsessed by calorie counting. It’s not for me. It makes me miserable and feel unattractive.

I know that I will not be what everyone wants, but I hope to one day find just one person for whom I can be their cup of tea. Who knows. I might be successful or I might not, but I will not pander to the world view that thin is beautiful. SOme of the most wonderful people I know are overweight and happy and some of the most miserable people I know are thin.”

I thought I was rather succinct, and polite 😀

Written by Anna Williams in: Uncategorized |

9 Comments »

  • tina

    I’ve always considered my fat arse to be a kind of Git Filter – I’ve only dated three men in my life, but they were all honest, kind, funny guys (yes, even Spike!). This one is not only a git but thick too – how many pounds overweight is no indicator of what shape or how firm/wibbly you are. Maybe write back saying that yes, you are x pounds overweight but the weight’s all in your magnificent bazoomas? And then tell him where to stick his extra 15 pounds?

    Comment | March 25, 2008
  • Auntie Doris

    *giggle* a top comment Tina. Thanks 🙂

    Comment | March 25, 2008
  • tina

    Seriously, we have to laugh at twassocks like this, but I know from first-hand experience that it hurts. There are blokes out there who know that ‘real men like something they can get hold of’ – here’s a little prayer that one comes into your life – dating website or not!

    Comment | March 25, 2008
  • fineline

    Oh gosh – I joined one of those sites once and I found that the guys who had these stipulations about weight and attractiveness tended to be the ugliest guys on the site! They had no sense of realistic expectations -and thus many of them stay on the site for years, searching in vain for the perfect woman, and failing to realise that the perfect woman will be looking for the perfect man!

    Comment | March 25, 2008
  • www.a_musing.blogspot.com

    You rock! And you are soooo beautiful.So very beautiful. If it weren’t for the gay thing…

    Really you are a beautiful, sexy woman. No question about that.

    Comment | March 26, 2008
  • Ian

    Guys like that are morons; and putting it on their profile only shows their moron level is rather high.

    And great response.

    Comment | March 26, 2008
  • Auntie Doris

    Story of my life Peterson 😉

    Comment | March 26, 2008
  • Pants

    Heehee… I love Tina’s bazoomas comment! Make sure you put that if another jerk like that turns up!!

    Comment | March 27, 2008
  • This was on a Christian website??!!!

    I think I’d be tempted to write and ask him in what way he felt that thinking like that let alone posting it was consistent with his Christian faith!

    Comment | March 28, 2008

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